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Victimization and Finding True North

Posted by on May 1, 2018 in Codependency, Featured, Sexual Abuse, Shame, Tara Hedman, Trauma | 1 comment

Many years ago, I was struggling to set my world upright after a devastating emotional earthquake and the relational aftershocks. As the flashbacks of abuse came like a foreign invader into my world, I didn’t know who to trust. Or, how to trust. As I worked with a counselor to steady myself, I found my capacity to perceive my experiences were not 20/20. My counselor was kind, patient, and skilled at knowing how to reset my equilibrium. She once gave me this homework: Whatever you would normally think, do, or say this week, do the exact...

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Chocolate, Cheez-Its, and a Yarn Snob

Posted by on Apr 23, 2018 in Addiction, Codependency, Counseling, Shame | 0 comments

After an hour of the usual routine to get back to sleep, I’m still awake at 2 a.m. Resigned that I’m up for a while, there are some things I’d like to get done. I grab my computer (yes, counselors make bad life choices) and I poke around on my To Do list.  While researching some info, an advertisement pops up for yarn. Such an innocent little ad. No big deal. Just some hand-spun, white angora heavenliness. The part of me that lives solely to stash copious amount of yarn clicks on the ad. The world of online knitting looks...

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Puppies and Perceived Threats

Posted by on Apr 23, 2018 in Ashley Rainey, Counseling, Fear, Trauma | 0 comments

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” -Marcus Aurelius      A few months ago, I was traveling to visit a good friend and was in the airport. Waiting to board my plane, a nice man and his dog walk toward me. They sat right beside me. For me, this is the equivalent to winning the lottery.    Immediately, I internally feel, “thank you Universe, you know I want to love on a...

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Growth Spurts

Posted by on Dec 20, 2017 in Ashley Rainey, Vulnerability | Comments Off on Growth Spurts

“You can’t change the waves, but you can learn to surf.” Jon Kabat-Zinn Let’s take a minute to reflect on growth spurts. Not the physical kind that teens and babies experience, but the kind that completely changes our current way of understanding and meaning of life. Have you ever read a simple sentence, heard a comment, reflected on a quote, gained insight that completely changed you? Some of these growth spurts we welcome with open arms and excitement. The growth spurt I personally gained from the quote above by...

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This Holiday Season…

Posted by on Dec 4, 2017 in Ashley Rainey, Counseling | Comments Off on This Holiday Season…

I went to a store on Halloween this year and the presence of Halloween was gone. No trace of orange, no markdowns, nothing. This store had the feel of early December, which quickly got me excited to decorate for the end of year holidays. I made a comment to a loved one about the idea of decorating early and the response was, “We cannot do that! It would be like skipping Thanksgiving.” When we have loved ones coming around to decorate, celebrate, and create new experiences, it can be a very...

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Scared Shitless: Puppy Trauma

Posted by on Oct 4, 2017 in For Fun, Tara Hedman, Therapy Dog Blog | Comments Off on Scared Shitless: Puppy Trauma

Hi, humans! I’ve grown up so much since I wrote to you last time, and am officially a therapy dog. I love my clients and get excited when they come in to see me. I know lots about trauma and LOVE to help. Helping is my favorite thing! Mom asked me to share something kind of embarrassing. I don’t want to, but she said it might help some humans. So, I said ok. One day, my big brother Murphy and I were playing in the backyard. We do zoomies around the trees and chase the bunnies. We run around the barn and play hide and...

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21 Signs of Spiritual Abuse (Or, No, You’re Not Crazy!)

Posted by on Sep 18, 2017 in Featured, Shame, Spiritual Abuse, Spirituality, Tara Hedman, Trauma | Comments Off on 21 Signs of Spiritual Abuse (Or, No, You’re Not Crazy!)

  Spiritual abuse comes in many forms. It can be subtle or overt. It’s damaging regardless of the shape it takes. Most spiritual abuse isn’t the sort that gets news coverage.   When children are taken from their homes because a cult leader has sexually abused them in the name of God, it’s easy to call it spiritual abuse. But, it’s the more subtle, mainstream abuse that’s widespread. A recent conversation with a friend caused me to consider how to better define and outline spiritual abuse. As we discussed spiritual...

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When Shame is Protective

Posted by on Aug 17, 2017 in Aversion, Counseling, Sexual Abuse, Shame, Tara Hedman | Comments Off on When Shame is Protective

Most of my life was spent marinating in shame. It felt like part of my genetic makeup. Shame held my head underwater and told me to resign to my fate, to stop fighting. Shame left me feeling my very personhood was flawed. At a very young age, I remember telling an adult about the sexual abuse I was suffering. I didn’t know the words sexual or abuse but said what I could in my best seven-year-old language. The person I told should have protected the very vulnerable little me. Instead, the look on the individual’s face said everything. The...

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On the Hook: Why We Run

Posted by on Aug 9, 2017 in Counseling, Featured, Tara Hedman, Trauma, Vulnerability | Comments Off on On the Hook: Why We Run

Last night a Bassett Hound puppy and his early twenty-something human were practicing commands in the thick grass along the shore of Lake Dillon. I had a great view from the deck of the rental condo. I watched for a while, wanting to kiss the little pup right between the eyes on his velvety face. The smart puppy was learning sit, stay, down, and come. He was obedient and eager-to-please. Puppy perfection. This morning, I’m again on the deck. This time with a piece of toast and a cup of tea while watching the sun come up on the lake. I watch...

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Feelings are the Devil

Posted by on May 24, 2017 in Tara Hedman, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Feelings are the Devil

There’s a pervasive belief that is destroying hearts and lives. A certainty that emotions are morally wrong, and feelings such as anger and fear are the problem. Joy and love are touted as holy, but pain and shame represent a black mark on your character. I find this to be true specifically within certain Christian cultures. The idea is that feelings are the problem and if we could only conquer those nasty moods we’d be just fine, thank you very much. Feelings are to be considered weakness or even a lack of faith. When...

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